We hear much talk about this generation being the ‘entitlement generation’. You know, whiners who believe the world owes them something because everybody has done them wrong or they were simply raised with too much ‘positive reinforcement’ and not enough consequence or discipline.
I’m not going to argue the merits of this point, but I will simply state an irrefutable law of life. You are exactly where you belong and deserve to be. The good news is…you can change that at any time.
You are where you are based solely on the choices you have made. Sure, you can sing the ‘somebody done me wrong’ song all day, but in the end you will not escape the fact that where you are is totally a factor of your mindset and the choices that got you this far. If you watch TV, do you choose programming that enriches your mind or numbs it to forget about the day’s problems? If you read books, do you choose self-help, biography, or romance? This is not a criticism of your choices, just a simple example of how they effect where you are mentally. You can do things that will move you forward, move your backwards, or keep you right where you are. The choice is yours.
You have what you have based solely on the actions you have taken. Yah, but…the government this, and the economy that…Blah, blah, blah, woe is me. There are hundreds of stories of people in the world who have been through much worse than anything that has ever happened to you and they have succeeded because they wouldn’t allow the world to keep them down. They set goals, made plans, and took action. Nelson Mandela was a prisoner. Elie Weisel was in a concentration camp. Stephen Hawking uses wheelchair and keyboard. Henry Food had no money and less than a year of formal schooling. And…remind me again what your excuse is?
You are the person you deserve to be because of the effort you put into creating yourself. Your beliefs determine your thoughts, which determine your actions, which create the results you have today. Let’s do a simple mindset check. Take a look at the last 10 posts you put on social media. Assign an emotion or description to each one. Now count how many were happy, celebratory, angry, loving, punishing, educational, spiritual, revengeful, or just plain negative. Take a good look at the difference between the positive and negative posts. This may give you an indication of your general mindset.
You are the sum of your 5 closest friends. Now, go back to the previous paragraph and look at the comments to your posts from friends. Are they sympathetic, compassionate, helpful, or are they angry, confrontational, argumentative? ‘It’s hard to soar with the eagles when you flock with turkeys’, goes an old saying. My mother was fond of, ‘you are the company you keep’. Are your friends supportive in a good way? Do they help you up or keep you down. This can be a sobering realization for some people.
YOU CAN CHANGE AT ANY TIME! Yes, you can. Start right now by examining your BELIEF systems and questioning them. Make an effort to THINK in a positive fashion. Take ACTIONS that will lead you toward a good goal and you will see the RESULTS that more appropriately match what you feel you deserve. Or…continue doing what you are doing and getting what you are getting. The choice is always yours.
If you want some help making changes, setting goals, and realizing your dreams, contact me. I am always eager to assist.